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A while ago I came across a brawl
in down town Nairobi involving a smartly dressed man and a ‘Mukorino’ woman. The
scuffle lasted for a few minutes and seemed to be some love gone sour. It was
not until that some plain clothed officers swung into action to restrain this furious
woman that I watched the man take into heels and disappear into the crowd!
The
crowd laughed as though this was an extra ordinary occurrence in the streets of
Nairobi, but what lingers in my mind to
this day, are words that woman uttered when she was led away by the police ‘ Umeacha Mshamba uoe Malaya ‘ (You
Leave a Naïve Wife for a Whore !) As I listened people gathered there
talking about the cause of this scuffle, I realized this man had moved to town
leaving his wife in their matrimonial village and had always avoided her former
wife since he was now having a ‘Gashugwa’
Days later someone else mentioned
to me the same thing; how you can aacha mshamba and oa Malaya! In this
context I
want to highlight how this advice can be useful to those of us who
can’t simply be satisfied!
It is very
easy to get lost when making a choice when presented with tow good things but
the ability to curb your urge of immediate gratification will help you become
good in making the best choice. Nearly all people in relationship are
unsatisfied because of different reasons.
Many people always think that the
Grass is Greener on the other side of the fence while that is not the case! Before
you quit you should consider doing a background check on your dating course and
you will be amused by the many things you have compromised to this day as narrated
to me by a friend about his course of dating since he was 19 years.
Dating 19-23 (College Blues)
While he was 19 – 24 years he
believed that all the gorgeous curvy women are the only ones who deserved to be
dated by him. Since those were the days he had dating enthusiasm he dated
several such women and never got one relationship that lasted more than 3
months.
Failure Reason: Incompatibility
Dating 25 -29 (Welcome to Life!)
While he was 25 -28 years dating
was getting more serious and was only interested in women who would have
substance for a serious relationship. Life became a little harder, time scarce
and priorities have changed, Woman’s shape is no longer important some little
beauty, mild charm blended with good character was good enough to make a woman
amazing life partner.
Failure Reason: Incompatibility or Lack of such a Partner
Dating 30 – 40 (Dating Sunset)
While dating in this age bracket
there are little preference about beauty somewhat women with more weight become
acceptable and many men end up accepting that they are beautiful too. Most men
wake up from the realm of fantasy and realize all they need is the mother of
their kids!
Success formula: Appreciation
From this journey I discovered how
easily men change their mind about their preferred partner. No wonder many men
in Kenya ‘huacha washamba wanaona Malaya! ‘Don’t be one of those men,
take time to appreciate your Mshamba and help them style up
instead of jumping from the flying pan into the fire!
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they promote thought provoking discussions for a better society.
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a Good Day
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