There is a sharp
increase in the number of marriages that are hitting the rocks every other day.
A close look at what could be the reason why marriage institution have become
vulnerable to failure is the increase in what I call ‘unjustified feminism‘. Kenyan
society is one that characterized by explosiveness in pursuit of rights and
power.
This could be the reason why in the last two decades women have been
over sensitized about their marital rights (haki yetu) resulting in an ‘only women
agenda ‘driven society.
Talk of men being battered, denied sex, denied right of children visitation, extortion and all manner of bad things happening silently to men in the name of ‘women rights’ In the past one year we have seen not less than three major cases of men who have been seriously battered hospitalized. Several other men have been left by their spouses and denied the right to
visit their children.
Good Old Days seems Like
they are Gone…….
While all this is
happening we are seeing many young men getting wasted by spouses who claim
child support after failed marriages. I don’t want to believe that the law is
fair to everyone here; there are many things that fall in between. While we
don’t want to cultivate a society that does not embrace fatherhood
responsibility, there are many reasons why every attempt to strengthen
fatherhood responsibility in Kenya is bound to fail.
In the times of our
forefathers this was not an issue since our fore fathers had submissive and
meek wives who were not corrupted by the modernity. I do not mean that all
Kenyan women are not ideal for marriage but a good number approach marriage
with feminist mindset and are not ready to persevere the ups and downs that
come with marriage.
Kenyan Women always talk of men not willing to commit; but the truth, is many young men are aware of the failing nature of Marriages in Kenya and are not ready to take the risk. If they do they are ready for the consequences.
Kenyan Women always talk of men not willing to commit; but the truth, is many young men are aware of the failing nature of Marriages in Kenya and are not ready to take the risk. If they do they are ready for the consequences.
Role of Leaders and Church
It’s obvious
that survival marriage institution is threatened; our leaders and church should
work very hard to correct these outwardly growing vices. It is time Kenyan
women changed their approach to marriage from a combative style to a
perseverance style. Times have changed and things have become hard for everyone
of us. Economically women in Kenya are more empowered than men but this should
not be the cause of neglect of marital obligations. We need more tolerance for us to give rise to
another responsible generation.
Our legal experts need to strike
the delicate balance between the violation of men’s rights and over sensitized
women rights. As we embrace modern culture we should be aware that our
traditional African cultural practices were balanced and had a remedy for almost
all societal problems.
The bottom line is; Young women
in Kenya should not be left to rip off young hard working citizens in the name
of child support.
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