Dear Kitoto,
I am a 40 and married for 15 years, but I am sad and frustrated. I got married to a businessman who had another family and many other children born out of wedlock. I am a civil servant.
Immediately after we got married, he left all the responsibilities to me. He brought all his illegitimate children to my house, which was very burdensome. Whenever I complained, he would beat me up.
His first wife would travel and leave her children with me. I did everything for the children, including visiting them in school. This became too much and I developed ulcers. Every time I asked him for money he would remind me that I also earned a salary.
He is so adulterous. He sleeps around with different women. This has affected his business and he is now jobless.
I became so stressed at some stage that I suffered depression and a mild stroke. My doctor advised me to take a transfer and leave him. I did so, but he followed me to my new station. He started chasing after every woman he could sight and was once beaten up in town for pursuing somebody’s wife.
