Should Women be trusted to Dispose Condoms?

I previously wrote an article about 3 things that Kenyans don’t like wearing and one of them was condoms! While this is one of the best ways to get protection from Sexually transmitted diseases, there are many myths that revolve around condom use that we should demystify here. One of such myths is whether a girl can be trusted to dispose condoms! 

I overheard one of my notorious friends saying that he would never trust a girl to dispose condoms after sex. Initially thought this was ridiculous and whether the man or the woman disposed the condom was inconsequential but his argument was very intriguing! After listening to this argument I thought this guy was either too paranoid or sick! What do you think?

He argued that there was a possibility of foul play if you allowed a woman to dispose condoms, while this sounds pervert like. You must be very

3 Things Kenyans won’t Wear Condoms First!

It’s been a while since I got a chance to write a blog thanks to many generous people who have made my holiday a great success story! I hope you are also having a wonderful festive period and have managed to travel to ocha safely for those of us who must go to ocha this time of the year. When traveling a few days ago I could not help thinking about Kenyans and the risks they take! I think Kenyans are some of the highest risk takers in living in the world today! 

We watch so many ads advocating for change of behavior in Kenya but very few reliable researches are done to determine whether the efforts work. We spend millions of shillings on social behavior change but we are not keen to see how effective the campaigns have been on our society. In my research I have realized Kenyans are notorious for not wearing three things that put their life to potential risk.

The following are the three things Kenyans are hesitant to wear:

The Advice: ‘Utaacha Mshamba Uoe Malaya! ‘Helped Me!

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A while ago I came across a brawl in down town Nairobi involving a smartly dressed man and a ‘Mukorino’ woman. The scuffle lasted for a few minutes and seemed to be some love gone sour. It was not until that some plain clothed officers swung into action to restrain this furious woman that I watched the man take into heels and disappear into the crowd! 

The crowd laughed as though this was an extra ordinary occurrence in the streets of Nairobi,  but what lingers in my mind to this day, are words that woman uttered when she was led away by the police  ‘ Umeacha Mshamba uoe Malaya ‘ (You Leave a Naïve Wife for a Whore !) As I listened people gathered there talking about the cause of this scuffle, I realized this man had moved to town leaving his wife in their matrimonial village and had always avoided her former wife since he was now having a ‘Gashugwa’

Days later someone else mentioned to me the same thing; how you can aacha mshamba and oa Malaya! In this context I

How to tell if she is Worth a Relationship

Someone last week shared his painful memory of love gone sour and I would not help wonder why men stick around to women who will obviously disappoint them. If you see the warning signs that she is likely to disappoint you, there is not point of giving yourself some false hopes…just take the high road and never look back. For the sake of this disappointed friend and others out there, I have struggled to come up with a list I would call the tell tale signs that this girl will disappoint you.

Whether you meet in the bar, church , fitness club, school or in a bus stop, virtually all the women react the same way to attraction and you can easily tell if she is interested or not. Never force things ….be an ALPHA! If you are warming up to this chic and things seems to be going in the right

10 Lessons Celebs and Politicians Should Learn from ‘Caroline Mutoko Madeness ‘

It’s barely a few days since the social media beef between Carol Mutoko and some aggrieved ‘Kenyan Youths’ started. I have been reading some comments posted on the page lately and I would not help bursting in laughter. So I would like to let our Celebs and Politicians learn a few lessons here about social media and avoiding negative publicity from social media ‘s viral power

Most Important Lesson : There is a Serious Generation Gap Between Kenyan Leaders (the so called Vijana) and Kenyan Youths 

There exist a serious generation gap between our leaders who want to call themselves Vijana and the real Vijana. This generation gap calls for tolerance when dealing with these youths if you are a leader or a public figure. You should be willing to come down from the ivory tower you live in; to the humble mindset of these young fellows. Strike a compromise; don’t haul insults on someone because they made a suggestion about something silly. You should be willing to bridge this generational gap for you to survive in the realms of power, fame and popularity among Kenyan youths.

     # 1 Respect Earns you More Respect

I was told time and again by my teacher that I should learn to respect my elders and that stuck in my mind to this very day. What he failed to tell me; was if I became a King I should also respect my subjects. Some time in life we find ourselves in positions that we have subjects. Even in your own house you have a

Feminism is Slowly Killing Marriages in Kenya!

There is a sharp increase in the number of marriages that are hitting the rocks every other day. A close look at what could be the reason why marriage institution have become vulnerable to failure is the increase in what I call ‘unjustified feminism‘. Kenyan society is one that characterized by explosiveness in pursuit of rights and power. 

This could be the reason why in the last two decades women have been over sensitized about their marital rights (haki yetu) resulting in an ‘only women agenda ‘driven society. 

Talk of men being battered, denied sex, denied right of children visitation, extortion and all manner of bad things happening silently to men in the name of ‘women rights’  In the past one year we have seen not less than three major cases of men who have been seriously battered hospitalized. Several other men have been left by their spouses and denied the right to

Sunday Inspiration : Psalms 23 Sheng Version

Its Sunday again and I hope you had a nice week. I received this Verse from a friend and I would like to share it as our Sunday inspiration: 

Psalm 23 (sheng version)
Sir God ni Mtu nguyas,
Sitahustle na sitabeat,
Yee hunilead kwa mawaba zime relax,
Na anabambisha roho ya myn,
Hunichapia manjia za para juu ya jina yake,
Hata nikipitia machuom ngori za kuukata,
Manze sita tense,
Juu ako na mimi mbaiya!
Kiboko yake ya uzito inanipea syk kwa lyf.
Huniangushia bash ya nguvu mbele ya

Why I Gave Up Dating Short Women !

Lil Kim : Source Lately I have had girls fuss around about how they are looking for tall guys yet most of them fall below 4 ft in height. One of my ladies colleagues even told me that she would forgive a guy on anything else so long as he is tall. Note I mean physical height (not elsewhere)  This sounds ridiculous since by evolution a large percentage of men have gradually reduced in height to below 6 ft.  I also made a crazy observation that most of this women demanding tall ..blah ..blah blah ...are serious victims of Short Woman Syndrome.  When I decided to write about my experience with dating short women I wanted to write something solid. I did a quick research on Tinker Bell Syndrome that is synonymous with Short Girl/ Woman Syndrome. I was amused by some things I read. I began by the definition of Short Woman Syndrome and this is what I found out from urban dictionary...

This Story Changed My Style of Approaching Women for Dating

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‘And she claims she was only with me for the currency.  You cut me deep, bitch, cut me like surgery and I was too proud to admit that it was hurting me I'd never do that to you, at least purposely…..’  

These are lines borrowed from Kanye West in the song Bitter Sweet. … This story will reflect on how you can get wasted chasing wind, a game that many young Nairobi women have mastered...BEWARE!

Denial

 Ask any Kenyan guy about what happened to their relationship when its broken the will either reply ‘ Nilimdump …sikuwa serious…..only a few guys will say…’nilikuwa wasted… we are often very proud of admitting failure even in our own eyes. ……when you are alone in your truest self you count your losses …

So today I want you to trim your ego for the next 5 minutes and read this story it might make a little difference the way it did to me…

The Most Common Pitfalls for Men Getting Married In Kenya !

‘Kenyans invest in shoes and beer and don’t want to invest in their health…’ Professor Anyang Nyong was quoted some while back.  I listened to this comment from the public health minister realized this truism could only make sense to those who cared to think about what he meant.

For a moment if you think of getting married soon you need to be critical and embrace reality instead of living in Mexican soap operas idiocy. I have taken time to research how young men are getting wasted by the pursuit of a DREAM WEDDING DAY some going to the extent of borrowing from financial institutions to just make a show.

The problem starts with the local airwaves that are buzzing with

Sunday Inspiration : How to Stop Worrying

In the recent times so many bad things (Alshabab attacks, police killings, accidents) happen around us and we worry about bad things that can happen to us. Its human nature to worry but the best way to live a life free of worries is using the technique I call ' Worst case Scenario ...' 

You should always ask your self ...What is the worst case possible to happen...then evaluate the options you have and soon you will begin to realize there are more options to the problem at hand than worry about it.  As a young man living in a country marred by corruption, favoritism, tribalism, nepotism ....and the other vices, trying to cultivate a positive mindset may be had to come by especially when you are jobless, heartbroken, damn broke and your dreams getting broken by the hour....

Changing the way you look at things and giving problems a dose of optimism makes you